well both. Sometimes people get mad say things they don't mean, and also people just do things they don't mean. Don't by any means beat them, but arguing is just part of a relationship and communication out can't do those without hurting the others persons feelings sometimes. But it goes the same way each way. I mean always say sorry make up hugs and kisses but it happens sometimes. No worries at all me and my Fiance have arguments all time and hurt eachothers feelings and sometimes you just can't be the perfect person. Sometimes you take out your anger by mistake things happen its ok! :)