it depends on the girl because girls did'nt think in the same way. some wants a boy to be gentle calm whith strong personality and others they don't care about theese things the most important thing for them is physical and not the moral

Reaching a girl isn't hard. Its being what they want you to be is the hard part. If this its truly the girl you want then sacrifices must be made in order for the relationship to work. Also, if you like the girl, TAKE INITIATIVE!!!!