Why do couples argue?  After all, we know that arguing is definitely not the most effective form of communication.  To avoid arguments ever, it is important for us to realize what causes the argument in the first place.  Arguments happen when one or both partners dip below a certain level in their self-esteem.  The reasons for this may vary, depending upon whether one of them has had a bad day; either had made a rude comment or simply a bad mood.  Once someone feels bad, the first thing to tend to do is to look for something to blame.  If you happen to be in the area, then you make for an easy target.

It always takes two to start an argument.  When we’re in a bad mood, we try to find ways to raise our self-esteem, and the methods we come up with are not really very effective.  Typically, we try to bring our partner down to our own level.  This we do, due to the misconception that bringing our partner down to our level will make us raise.  That explains why we tend to pick a fight in such situations.  But when we attack our partner, naturally they fight back.  This can get pretty ugly.

Honest communication between couples could avoid such squabbles.  Arguments occur when two people are yelling and no one is listening.  This is a clear sign that communication has broken down.  In the heat of such exchanges, a lot of hurtful and destructive things can be said to each that can even harm the trust you share between each other.

Find time to talk to your partner with an open heart.  Be a good listener as well.  Listening fosters good communication.  Both individuals should realize that they need each other in both good times and bad.  Good and effective communication implies that if you and your partner are willing to understand and communicate with each other honestly, there is a high chance of solving your problems and never having arguments again.