God has made Man and Woman differently; both are human but different from other another physically as well as psychologically. Women flow in deep emotional stream where as Men are practical and logical by nature. They differ in priorities, dreams, habits and reactions and responses to same situation that is why sometimes circumstances arises and you feel that even after loving your spouse truly you are not able to connect with him/her and the charm of marriage starts fading. It is very important to understand your spouse’s personality thoroughly otherwise these small arguments, differences and attitudes can destroy the sacred relationship. There are some general ways, which you need to learn to improve your relationship.

Give more Expect Less: Many times we expect more than we give. Always Remember, Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. You should first give the same respect, support,love and care what you seek from your spouse.

Do a Self-analysis and prepare an action plan: Take a piece of paper and pen, sit quietly, relax and scan the last 5 worst arguments with your partner and analyze your behavior and feelings in your mind. Now draw a line on the center of paper and write down what you want to change in you and how. For example, if your husband does not like some of your outfits but which are your favorite and many times this has been the reason of an unhealthy argument, how would you deal with it? Similarly if your wife does not like watching so much TV at nights how will you deal with it?
 
Keep Element of Patience in you: the relationship improvement is not a magic, which will change everything in Happily ever after way overnight. Let it take its own time. Don’t get dishearten, don’t give up, love your mate same like you love yourself.
For example during an argument, don’t start expressing urge to say your perspective until your spouse has presented his/her views and openly ready to listen you.

Power of Sorry and Forgiveness:
To keep your marriage brimming,
with love in the loving cup,
whenever you're wrong admit it;
whenever you're right shut up.
- Ogden Nash

Be open to accept your faults to your partner saying sorry and Even if it is not your fault, don’t scream or blame your spouse. For a time being you can assume like he/she is kid and forgive his/her mistakes openheartedly as you do with kids. It will grow your respect in your partner’s eyes.

Be an empathetic Listener: Do not be egocentric and try to understand what is going in your spouse’s heart and mind. Try to withhold the judgment and give conversation a way to move further. Try to understand his feelings and state of mind before minding his words as sometimes words become worst during anger or frightened situations.

Respect his/her views with Affirmation: every individual has his own view on each thing but even if your spouse’s point of view is not correct or matching with yours, don’t respond in negative way. Try to understand his views by asking reflecting questions may be you will be able to catch his view or atleast he/she will like that you are respecting his view.

Be honest and keep Trust Your Partner: Honesty and trust are the two most important keys to happy marriage. Be always honest to your partner even in small things, and keep your trust alive on the person whom you love most. If you have certain doubts or confusions ask directly to him rather than finding other ways. But the important thing is the presentation of your feelings and questions, which should not be in blaming way but in a soothing tone and smiling face on a right time.

Help your spouse to succeed: Mr. Gary Chapman defines a successful wife and husband in his book “The four Seasons of marriage” as “ A successful wife is one who expands her energy and time helping her husband reach his potential, likewise a successful husband is one who helps his wife succeed.
Commitment, Unity, Intimacy, understanding and trust are the elements, which binds a eternal marriage.

So it’s still not too late to start your efforts to understand your partner and reconnect with him/her. Because there is one big advantage of marriage that, when you fall out of love with him or he falls out of love with you, it keeps you together until you fall in again.